My Best Friend’s Wedding

IMG_0367In my line of work, I miss out on lot. Often the people I care about the most are the people I see the least. Their moments of triumph are posts I “like” on Facebook. Their good days are shared over Skype. Usually, I’m able to take the good with the bad. I recognize that in doing what I love (and what I think I’m good at), I’m either on or I’m off. There is very little in between. When I am not home, I’m very much not home. I’m plane rides and calling cards and time zones away. But when I’m home, I’m very available. And I’m very committed to the little things. Yet, today – of all days – I’m not home. And I’m missing a very big thing. I can’t help but be sad about it. Today is my best friend’s wedding and I’m not there.

It would be different if I were jumping up at Carnival in Trinidad or riding in jeeps deep in a Kenyan safari. But, I’m just at my house, sitting in my dining room, reading Pearl Cleage’s ‘Things I Should Have Told my Daughter: Lies, Lessons & Love Affairs.’ Essentially, I’m just waiting for a new day. If I were out having fun maybe this event would pass with little commentary. Or if I felt like where I am is where I should be, then maybe it would soften the blow. But, alas, this is the situation and we’re oceans apart. That is the unfortunate reality.

So, next week I’ll be ready to write the happy blog post I actually intended to write when I started writing today. The one where I celebrate all the things I love about my Pumpkin. Where I tell all about how in high school I raked her over the coals for some dumb thing I can’t even remember now and how we spent months not talking. I’m not sure how we made up, but she probably initiated it. I probably didn’t say sorry, even though the whole thing was probably my fault. I was young and dumb then. I’ll talk about how she was the only reason I seriously considered going to UNC Chapel Hill. Yet I couldn’t be enticed to suppress the big city girl in my heart. I’ll say all the happy, joyous, praiseful things I should have said to her face when I last saw her in D.C. as soon as I come to grips with the reality that I’m missing out on the biggest day of my best friend’s life and what I’m doing now is definitely not worth missing that.

This is the ugly underbelly of life as I know it.

I should be in North Carolina right now. Of that, I am certain.

Daily Delhi

There are times when people ask me what it’s like to live in Delhi and I have nothing to say except, ‘You’d have to be here to see it.’ Sometimes it’s simply indescribable. And other times, well, I’m just speechless. So, I got into the habit of taking Blackberry pics to share what a typical day in the life is like in this town.  Enjoy the images and see if you can help me come up with the vocabulary to describe my daily Delhi.

Hindu Temple

Hindu Temple in Khirki Extension

Anais Nin

Billboard at Three Windows at Khoj

Graffiti

Graffiti in Saket Area

Sari Design Studio

Sari Design Studio in Shahpur Jat

Neighborhood Girl

Neighborhood Girl

Shahpur Jat Lady of the House

Shahpur Jat Lady of the House

Tailor Supply Store

Tailor Supply Store

What's left of a Haveli

What’s left of a Haveli

Vegetable Market

Vegetable Market

Tihar Jail Store

Tihar Jail Store

South Indian Dinner

South Indian Dinner

Spice Jet

Spice Jet

Rastrapati Bhavan

Rastrapati Bhavan

Goat in a Rickshaw

Goat in a Rickshaw

Hummingbird

Hummingbird in Smokehouse Deli in Khan Market

Flower Stand

Flower Stand

Aloo Tokri Chaat

Aloo Tokri Chaat

Chana Bhatura

Chana Bhatura

Baraat

Baraat – Bridegroom’s Wedding Procession